Uncommon habits of Super performing parents Part-3

Nurturing successful children is not just about hard work and destiny but a consistent implementation of some solid uncommon habits built into the everyday environment when children are growing up as family culture. In part 3 of this series, below are uncommon but exceptionally effective habits that the top 0.1% of the parents of highly successful children seem to have done and keep doing.

1. Hire the best coaches

The most important people in your life are the people who saw the potential in you long before you saw in yourself. That is exactly what a great coach or teacher does. A great coach doesn't just identify and work on your child’s strengths but becomes an emotional anchor of self-belief. No wonder our favorite subjects are usually those which had teachers whom we deeply revered or loved. Super parents understand that one hour of learning with a great teacher is far more fruitful than ten hours with a run of the mill teacher.

They invest in the best coaches because they see the long-term impact it can create than the short-term cost. Remember, the difference between an Olympic winner and non-winner is just a few seconds and that’s what training with a good coach is all about. Also, an important mindset that this develops is: If you want to grow slow, learn on your own (or any teacher) but if you want to grow fast, have the best coach. 

2. Make children do Chores

The longest study at Harvard university has shown that the most important predictor of a child’s future success is the number of chores they have done as a child. Chores help children learn to roll up their sleeves and contribute with dignity for all the tasks in the house. It gives them a sense of responsibility, accomplishment and identity in the family ecosystem. They develop a better sense of self-worth, humility and work ethics. 

3. Create family routines

There is power in family routines. A family practice done consistently becomes a part of our cultural DNA that influences a lot of our personality. It could be a bedtime reading routine, a family meal or prayer time ritual, a board games night every week or interesting dinner table conversations. They also become the strongest bonding pillar for the family.

Super parents make these family routines a consistent priority and a nonnegotiable time commitment. As children get older, they become invaluable windows into a child’s world. Some of the most successful families share about speaking contests their family had that raised them to confident speakers, karaoke singing sessions, game times and others as the most memorable and defining part of their growing up years. 

4. Nurture with a growth mindset

The top 2% parents of super performing children swear by the fact that the right mindset is a key differentiating factor in their children’s performance. They lay high emphasis on choosing their words and actions mindfully to enable their children to reframe failures as learning opportunities, seek the positives in every situation, looking at a collaborative approach of win-win when dealing with people, setting high goals and be willing to put in the extra hour of hard work to make it worth it rather than sticking to what's convenient and comfortable.  

5. Know your child’s social circle

We are a product of people we spend most time with. Super parents are fully aware of this and therefore take the time and effort to invite, host and know their child’s social circle from school, college, classes and neighborhood. The growing influence of peers is inevitable in your child’s life but it's important we enable our children to be prepared to navigate the good and bad interactions and influences they may be subjected to.

Are you motivated to try implementing these habits in your parenting? Final Part in the next article. Share your moments and tag Pranjal_Gundesha on Instagram for a shout out and more such insights.